Whether you are looking to be mentored or have been asked to mentor, don’t confuse mentoring with teaching. Mentoring flows from life experience combined with knowledge. It doesn't need to be academic to be effective. Teachers impart knowledge and may or may not edify in the process, but mentors impart life and will always edify.
Christian mentoring is different as it is a voluntary relationship between mentor and mentored where a heart connection at its base. In today’s internet-search and talk show driven society, we suffer a great void from a lack of mentoring relationships in the Body of Christ. Our lives often move too fast, driven by stimulus and reaction. We don’t think we have the time to spend in building a true mentoring relationship. To change the world, we must become intentional and realize the untapped benefits available to us through our brothers and sisters in Christ.
When searching for a mentor, it’s important to look for those whose lives demonstrate the qualities we know we lack, or have been convicted to build into our lives. For Christians however, we should start with the basics.
Below are seven qualities to look for in an effective Christian mentor.
He/she spends a lot of time with God. True wisdom is derived from intimacy with God that only comes by spending time together with Him in the classic disciplines of prayer, Bible study, and meditation.
Service to their spouse (if they have one) in a healthy, Biblical relationship.
Parents his/her children as a life-priority before career.
A solid history of fruitfully ministering truth to others.
Aware of and actively resisting excessive acquisition and materialism.
A lifetime learner.
The scripture says "Seek first the Kingdom of God" (Matt. 6:33) and "Blessed is he who seeks NOT the counsel of the ungodly..." (Psalm 1:1.) Our lives on Earth are a preparation for our eternal lives. Our mentors should reflect those values and qualities that support the big picture, combining both spiritual maturity and practical experience.
Is it hard to find men and women who combine both? Sure it is! Like most things truly worth having, it will take effort. But remember, "Only ONE LIFE, soon to be passed, only what's done for Christ will last." If you would like to find God's mentor(s) for you, start by asking God. He knows even now just who and where they are and how you can connect with them. Ask Him...then watch!
C12 Peer Advisory Group Members serve as mentors for their fellow business leaders each month. In a safe and confidential environment, Members receive biblical wise counsel from those who have been there, and those who are experiencing the same issues. The result is improved businesses, strengthened family relationships, and a larger impact for the Kingdom of God.